We believe a true relationship starts with giving.
This guide is one of our first gifts to you.
The three most important questions you’ve been meaning to ask yourself.
Are you ready to take your practice to the next level, or perhaps you’ve been thinking it’s time for a change? The most expensive decision is doing nothing at all.
How long does it take? Some finish in fifteen minutes, some take an hour.
How it works
- 01You learn the difference between means goals and end goals.
- 02You write how you want to grow as an individual, what new experiences you want to have and how you want to contribute.
- 03You finish with a sense of professional clarity and the option to email that clarity to yourself.
Do you know the difference between Means goals and End goals?
A goal you set for yourself, or that somebody else set for you. It does not lead to a feeling of fulfilment.
The GPA, the degree, the partnership, the 2,000 hours, the A+, the $500,000 a year goal. You hit it, you tick it off the list, and the feeling you wanted never arrives.
- A third party grants it: a partner, a parent, a client, a judge.
- Once you achieve it you think to yourself… “and then what?”
- You can reach it and feel nothing.
The experience itself. The destination and the journey, and in this case you enjoy both.
There are three driving forces inside every human being: how you want to grow, what you want to experience and what you want to contribute.
- Nobody can withhold it.
- Nothing comes after it. That is the point.
- When you achieve it, you feel it.
A short test to see if you understand Means Goals and End Goals
Answer all ten. Choose before you read the verdict.
Two weeks a year with your children, phone off, nobody able to reach you.
Graduating at the top of your class.
Making partner before you turn forty.
Arguing a case in a language you cannot speak today.
$500K a year.
Teaching a young lawyer everything it took you years to learn, so that it outlives you.
Being the one your friends call when they have a problem.
Learning something new purely because it inspires or interests you.
A firm that runs for thirty days without you touching it.
Writing the guide a young lawyer uses ten years from now to close their first cross-border deal.
You can separate them. Whether your calendar agrees is another matter, and that shows up in Part 04.
Look at which ones you missed: almost always the ones holding up your week.
Half of what you call a goal is somebody else’s scoreboard. Normal at mid-career, and fixable.
Better this way. The person who wakes up at forty dreading Monday got almost all of them right and changed nothing.
The score does not matter. The pattern does: you are running your own race, at your own pace.
Three questions to figure out what you actually want out of life
Answer the following questions as if you had unlimited time and money.
Each section should be answered in 2 different ways, once for your professional life, once for your personal. That is why there are six boxes. Try to provide at least three answers in each section.
Write for where you want to be in three years. Not ten, not twenty — three. Most people overestimate what they can get done in a single year, which is why three is the horizon that keeps this honest. Picture that point and write from there.
How do you want to grow as a lawyer?
Professional life- The area you cannot yet handle without help.
- The language your next client speaks.
- The skill you avoid because you are bad at it: negotiating, speaking in public, pricing your own work, saying no.
- Whose judgement you want to have in ten years.
- What you want to be able to charge for that you cannot charge for today.
- The thing you still fake in a meeting.
- The kind of client you are not ready for yet.
How do you want to grow as an individual?
Personal life- Character: patience, courage, honesty when it costs you something.
- How you want to handle the next piece of bad news.
- What your physical self would look like in five years.
- Your spiritual life, your practice, your beliefs.
- What you want to stop needing from other people.
- Books that have nothing to do with law.
- The father, mother, partner or friend you want to be.
What do you want to achieve in this profession before you stop practising?
Professional life- The kind of matter you would take even if nobody paid you.
- The room you want to walk into: a courtroom, a boardroom, a closing table in another country.
- Who is sitting across from you.
- The client whose problem you want handed to you.
- The team you want beside you on the day it gets ugly.
- The moment you would want on video.
- The call you want to make when it is over, and to whom.
Imagine an extraordinary life and what is possible. What kind of experiences would you have?
Personal life- Where you wake up on an ordinary Tuesday.
- Who is at the table on a Sunday.
- The trip you have postponed three years running.
- What your body can still do at eighty.
- The house, the road you drive, the food on the table.
- Your last day: what has to have happened for it to have been a life.
What do you want to contribute through your practice?
Professional life- Who has access to law because you exist.
- What you would teach for free.
- The young lawyer whose career you want to change.
- Your firm as an employer: what is true for the people who work there.
- The standard, the precedent or the practice you want to leave behind you.
- The matter you would take pro bono every year, forever.
- How the legal sector would change in the country you work in, because of your contribution.
What do you want to contribute as a person?
Personal life- Your family: what do they get from you that nobody else can give them.
- Your street, your community, your country.
- What you would fund if nobody knew it was you.
- What you want said about you in a room you are not in.
- The thing you would fix in your country if you were able to.
- Your legacy in one sentence a child could repeat.
- Who is better off in ten years because they knew you.
The essence of being a Human/Lawyer
Now we take action!
Perhaps it is time for a change, or time to go all in. Either way, you need to take massive action!
- 01Put the most important goals in your calendar right now.
- 02Share your goals and your dreams with someone you care about, someone who will hold you accountable.
- 03Ask for a copy sent to your own email and keep it in your inbox as a commitment to yourself.
- 04Share this quiz with a partner or a colleague. Who do you know that needs to answer these three questions for themselves?
Do it now
A year from now, it will be the only record of what you wanted today.
Who needs to ask themselves these three questions? A colleague, a friend, a family member. Put in their email and we send it on your behalf.
One email, sent in your name as a gift. They get the exercise, never your answers.
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